I found this title in the resources for Coachinc’ students and think it is very thought provoking .
Most women put other’s needs before their own needs: children, husband, old parents, siblings, bosses, team members and so on …
To be selfish is about taking the time to focus on your needs, listen to your emotions and to take care of yourself no matter how busy you life is. To be selfish is not being needy or egoist, it is a very healthy habit that helps create both emotional and physical well being. You create more inner peace, joy and a natural balance.
How to become unconditionally selfish? Start to listen to your inner signals, trust your emotions, if it feels wrong you are probably right. This skill can be developed by acknowledging your feelings rather than dismissing them. You can start making a journal where you write about the situation (facts), the thoughts that was triggered by the situation and how did you feel about it. After a couple of months, you can start to identify patterns, people and situations that drain your energy down, things or persons you tolerate that are not aligned with your values and principles. You gain also more self-confidence that makes you excited, happy, and full of positive energy.