When you see how it can make things better, you get more interested in making the change happen.
(Spencer Johnson-Who Moved My Cheese?)
Five months ago we moved from Belgium to the U.S. because we decided to live in a place where we think we will have more chances to be happy than in Europe where my husband and I were born. We do think the grass is definitively greener from this side of the Atlantic. We think the education system in France is too rigid and focus on the negatives while we see the American culture more incline to do praising and positive reinforcement at school or at work which make people more positive in life than focusing on the negative. In America people have an entrepreneurial spirit and we think just because the country is still the number one economy in the world that statistically there are more opportunities here on several aspects of our life.
Some psychologists may perceive this attitude as not being able to be happy with what you have and immature or even unhealthy, but I challenge that idea because this thinking has also the power to make your life more extra-ordinary. This way of thinking is a strong motivator to change and it is a survival mode too when things turn bad. It is important to make choices without comparing what you have with what other people have in a negative way like being envious or jealous. You need to have an explorer mind to discover new ways of thinking or people who enrich your life.
I am an expatriate by choice because I do find more positive than negative to live abroad even after 12 moves, back and forth across the Atlantic and the Pacific Oceans. In a previous post, I explain that people who are overcoming obstacles in unknown environments like expatriates in new cultures develop more resilience .(See: Are Expats More Resilient ? )
For sure you can make you own grass greener if you don’t take is for granted and continue to take care of it, putting water removing weeds. However, you won’t be able to bring the world diversity in your backyard easily. It is also hard to predict changes and adversity like new bugs or weeds that will destroy your grass or the one on the other side of the fence, but adapting to changes is about moving on and looking where the grass is greener.
Interestingly I hear very often the same things from Americans thinking France and Western European countries are better in term of education, healthcare, employment and quality of life in general as opposed to what they think about their own country.
We all agree that our perception is our reality and thinking that you can start a new life in a new place and that sky has no limit, foster a great positive mindset and makes you do things other people think there are impossible.
Life IS change ! What do you think ?
Do you have a pioneer mind ?
Here a short movie about Spencer Johnson’s book “Who Moved My Cheese”