Today is going to be a very short blog as part of the January’s Motivation theme:
Do you know where you motivation comes from ?
Think about how you feel when you speak to someone about a problem and the person gives advises. Do you really want to follow them ? Well most of the time the answer is NO ! Right ?
Why is it that our first spontaneous answer is NO to advises even if the solutions offered really work ? My theory based on my observations, is that knowledge is not the issue , the issue is TO DO the things we need to do and you cannot move someone else into action.
“You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink”
So that means you can give the opportunity to someone to do something by telling some tips, but you cannot force them to do it if they do not want to !
Want examples ?
What about quitting smoking ? You know that it gives cancer and you can die from heart attacks. Is that stopping smokers to smoke? NO ! Why ? because for most people those reasons are not intrinsically motivating and there is no instant rewards to stop smoking, only hypothetical long-term promises that we are not going to die but we will all die sometimes anyway!
Let me confess, I smoked for years but quit cold turkey when I was pregnant and never smoked again, I cannot even stand the smell of smoke around me. When I started working, smoking was a great way to socialize at work at the smoking corner so that was one reason that drop when I had my son because I quit working in the corporate world at the same time. Something also might have happened during my pregnancy that made me quit for the benefit of my baby.
Hope this short example is giving you the opportunity to think about what really motivates you when you set a goal to change your life forever.
Hint: What do you SEE, FEEL, SMELL, HEAR when you think about reaching your goal ? Visualization is a powerful tool used by athletes and successful people.