“Mirror, Mirror, Do I still look young, beautiful and attractive?”
“Humm …not as pretty, thin and fresh than 20 years ago responded the mirror”
Then I look closer at my face saw wrinkles around my eyes, my hair roots showing their true gray color, some parts of my body were definitively showing signs of aging but I did not really worry. For sure I am not as beautiful as Demi Moore for the same age but she seems to have some troubles accepting her age emotionally (read more about Demi’s Life after rehab)
For most women there is an age, could be 35. 45 or 55, when we realize that our body is changing and we cannot have the same weight and shape that we had before we got our children or like when we were in college. The paradox is, then we probably were not happy with our body image.
No matter how old you are, how you look, how much money you spend in surgery you cannot stop aging but you can choose between two attitudes:
1-Change the way you define beauty and your feelings about your body image
2-Stay in denial and live miserably because you cannot turn the clock back even with Botox or the surgeon’s knife.
So if you want to age gracefully and enjoy your life everyday for the next 40 or 50 years here the four tips you can follow:
1-Acknowledge that your appearance is changing and notice the true fears and feelings you have when you look at yourself in the mirror and see the changes. Are you worrying about your marriage or your career? Are you scared of being unable to practice your favorite sport ? Are you feeling unsecured when you are with younger people? Do you worry about having enough money when you will retire ? it is very important to be as precise as possible to address the real issues you are dealing with beyond just fear of losing your youth.
2-Listen to your thoughts and self-criticisms, maybe you are too harsh and need to re-write your inner dialogue with less negative judgements. Focus on what you like most about your physical appearance and talk to yourself with the same tone you will tell a friend.
3-Imagine yourself being 20 years older and looking at a picture of you as you are right now,. You will probably think you were pretty good-looking at that time and you might regret that you did not enjoy your look when you had the opportunity.
4-Make healthy changes instead of clinging to the past: you can start by eating wisely, enjoy physical activities, invest in an image consultant who can help you choose the best color to wear and styles, helps with make-up and your hair. Once I coached a client who did a re-looking after she made big changes in her life and the transformation was amazing. Her new outside look was aligned with her new feelings and thoughts about herself.
How about you ?
- Are you worrying or desperate about aging ?
- When old is too old for you?
- Are you ready to go to surgery to get flatter belly or less wrinkles ?