I read this article from the blog “Zen Thinking” : you only lose what you cling to and it suggested to me that there is no concept of loss if there’s no act of clinging, leading to another idea that you have to lose something to gain something.
This apply not only to material possessions, but also to beliefs and thoughts we have in our minds that don’t serve us anymore and hold us back.
So practically what does it mean ? The idea is first to find what we need to drop in our life to improve our wellbeing in general and to give room to make healthier habits.
Here some tips to start:
1-Get Rid of Old Stuff : Possessions take up space and energy in our minds and in our homes. Every time you buy something new, let go of something old by giving it away, or toss it out. By letting go of things from the past, you can live more fully in the present.
2-Focus On Yourself: When we are afraid and insecure, we may feel a need to cling to and control those who are closest to us. Clinging to expectations of how others should act can trigger anger and stress. Instead, focus on yourself, find ways to nurture and center yourself so that you feel independent and strong, allow others to be who they need to be.
3-Meditate Regularly: When we get stressed out, we tend to hold our breath. This makes us even more anxious. When we meditate we release the breath and allow it to flow fully and deeply. Then you will feel more relaxed, open, and spontaneous.
4-Be Positive. When we cling to negative thoughts, emotions, or memories, we spiral into destructive habit patterns. By replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, you create a harmonious space for yourself and others.
5-Forgive. Let go of painful memories from your past. Free yourself by offering forgiveness to those who have hurt you and to yourself.
6-Enjoy The Process. In our pursuit for “more”, we often shift away from our current state of equilibrium and we let the results of our actions be our motives. We try so hard to be perfect, that we cling to outcomes we want to measure instead of enjoying the process itself . Do your best and then remember to release—physically, mentally, emotionally. Let go and stay open to guidance from within.
7-Be generous. Expand your capacity to stretch yourself. Share your time, your energy, your knowledge, your attention, your connections. Donate. Volunteer. Give in whatever way you can.
8-Practice Non-Attachment: Non-attachment is a state of mind that will help you both in times of joy and sorrow. We cling to pleasure, hoping that it will never leave, and we are overwhelmed by pain, fearing that it will never end. By practicing non-attachment, we become able to endure difficult moments, knowing that—as a wise saying goes—this too shall pass.