The Opposite principle is illustrated in an episode of the TV show Seinfeld, when George decides to do the opposite of everything he usually does, because his life sucks. When he begins to do this, his luck changes and everything begins to go his way.
Of course it is not that simple to implement but it is a good start to identify what works best for you and keep doing it and stop what doesn’t work.
For more advice read the article : The Costanza Principle: Better Decisions Through Your Inner Contrarian ( Original article published in 2014 in lifehacker.com written by Thorin Klosowski )
Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results-Albert Einstein
Everyone wants to be happy, but the biggest obstacle to that is the mushy thing inside your skull that you think with.
The brain is designed to put more weight on negative thoughts than on positive ones. This imbalance takes us away from experiencing positive emotions such as joy, gratitude or hope.
Having positive emotions helps us become relaxed, playful and learn new skills more easily.
However, it is important to have a certain amount of negative emotions to be able to be creative and resilient.
Perception and Behavior: How To Stimulate Creativity
Updated Thinking on Positivity Ratios Barbara L. Fredrickson
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Do you keep failing to lose weight? Your mindset might be preventing successful weight loss. Find out how to change this.
This apply to any kind of change, not only for loosing weight :
We all don’t like discomfort and change is about making you uncomfortable, so embrace it rather than trying to avoid the pain.
No pain no gain: yes if you want changes that last you will have to give up some things you really enjoy but the key is to replace habits that don’t serve your goals by new habits you equally enjoy
Focus on the process rather than on the end results, nothing is happening overnight.
Check if you are mentally and physically equipped to make the changes you need. It is better to postpone starting a change project if it is not the right timing rather than trying for a couple of days or week, failing and blaming yourself for lack of will power. It will sure make your self-esteem goes down
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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ― Winston Churchill
Anne Egros‘s insight:
Yes failure can hurt, we have to acknowledge this feeling but what can we do about it ?
Is taking action the answer ?
You can find good suggestions in Babauta’s article.
Here what I do and questions I ask myself:
- Writing down facts : Are they true ? Do I have evidences or is it my interpretation ?
- Writing down emotions: Is it my ego that got hurt ? How do I feel? Why do I feel pain ?
- What choices do I have : learn from failure and move on ?, Try a new approach ?
How About You ? What can you do when you have the heavy feeling of failure in your heart ?
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By Amanda MacMillan We all do it: Texting while walking, sending emails during meetings, chatting on the phone while cooking dinner.
Anne Egros‘s insight:
The slides in the article are very good examples that should make you think about re-designing your life and your work if you feel constantly distracted and have your energy consumed by doing different things simultaneously.
University of California, San Francisco last 2011 declares, “Researchers know that multitasking negatively impacts working memory in both young and older adults”
More than 15 years ago, Steven Covey already identified the problem and gave us a method to focus on doing most important tasks to reach our true goals in his books: THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST) and FIRST THINGS FIRST.
I have summarized the Covey’s books in the following article:
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Do you make New Year resolutions in January? Are you thinking about doing something new, stopping a bad habit or be a better person?
I usually write some goals and ideas around January 3rd as I feel relaxed, but full of energy.
Most people fail to stick to their yearly goals because they are either unrealistic or they don’t have the resources or they fall into the category of things they think they should do to please others, but don’t really feel intrinsic motivation to change.
Another reason for failure is to be too impatient and try to change too many things at the same time like quitting smoking and losing weight or changing job and starting a family. That’s why most people quit their good resolutions within the first 90 days of the new year.
So should we stop doing New Year resolutions? I think YES, if we stick to the definition of a resolution: “a firm decision to do or not to do something”. If we think that way it sounds like success or failure are only the results of willpower.
However, willpower is very limited as our brain is looking for rewards and instant gratifications as a result of specific behaviors especially when we are under stress. So if we want to quit smoking for example, it doesn’t help to know that we may increase the risks of getting cancer compared to the instant relief of anxiety that smoking can provide.
Before setting any specific goals for the new year, I suggest you think about moments of your life when you felt truly happy to understand what behaviors and environments make you emotionally and physically satisfied. Then, list actions and activities that you can include in your life that will reproduce those moments. It is also important to identify situations that make you unhappy and that you want to eliminate.
Make a list of five areas of your life you want to change such as self-development, career, family, etc. Select three goals for the year and associate what rewards do you expect based on the list of what makes you truly happy.
If you have difficulties to make this exercise and identify your priorities, maybe you can talk with your partner or a coach to make sure that you plan for success and do not make new year resolutions that you won’t keep.