The Opposite principle is illustrated in an episode of the TV show Seinfeld, when George decides to do the opposite of everything he usually does, because his life sucks. When he begins to do this, his luck changes and everything begins to go his way.
Of course it is not that simple to implement but it is a good start to identify what works best for you and keep doing it and stop what doesn’t work.
For more advice read the article : The Costanza Principle: Better Decisions Through Your Inner Contrarian ( Original article published in 2014 in lifehacker.com written by Thorin Klosowski )
Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results-Albert Einstein
Do you keep failing to lose weight? Your mindset might be preventing successful weight loss. Find out how to change this.
This apply to any kind of change, not only for loosing weight :
We all don’t like discomfort and change is about making you uncomfortable, so embrace it rather than trying to avoid the pain.
No pain no gain: yes if you want changes that last you will have to give up some things you really enjoy but the key is to replace habits that don’t serve your goals by new habits you equally enjoy
Focus on the process rather than on the end results, nothing is happening overnight.
Check if you are mentally and physically equipped to make the changes you need. It is better to postpone starting a change project if it is not the right timing rather than trying for a couple of days or week, failing and blaming yourself for lack of will power. It will sure make your self-esteem goes down
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At one point or another new expats will get a “lecture” about “Culture Shock” as it is explained in this video:
Not every expats experience that sequence of emotional reactions and saying this is “normal” is not removing the pain or discomfort. Often people who do not experience this “one size fits all” approach may feel “abnormal” or less competent than typical expats and sometimes think they are a failure not able to cope with their struggles while living abroad.
It is important to acknowledge first the feelings without judgement and then look at individual best coping strategies. You can’t change things you have no control about but you can change the way you think and from a new perspective make necessary changes to get the most of your expatriation.
Sometimes friends are not enough and it is important to allow yourself to find professional help.
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Watch this video and learn why you need to go back to being a kid if you want to find real career happiness!
Anne Egros‘s insight:
What did you answer when you was a kid to this question : What do you want to be when your grow up ?
Most of the time your answer was to please and impress the adults that counted most in your life.
As adults, chances are high that we pursue a career to impress others. Not because we truly follow our passions.
Pause and think about it and be honest with yourself : what do you want to say when someone ask the question : What do you do ?
Is this really what you love to do ?
Are you living someone else dream ?
Who do you want to impress or please as an adult ? Your boss, spouse, friends, etc?
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Intrinsic motivation is what works once people get enough money to have their basic needs met.That is the principle of the Maslow’ Pyramid of needs.
Some people think that Maslow’s theory is not valid anymore, yet I agree with Tom Fisburne on his analysis of relation with what brands offer, pricing and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
If we assume that we are talking about an environment where people have enough money for “paying the bills”, then external rewards of any types wont’ motivate people on the long run. They will expect to get more each time and ultimately lose interest if rewards don’t increase. It is a kind of “incentive addiction”, it destroys more than it stimulates.
Any goal setting exercise should start by the end : What benefits do you expect if you reach a specific goal ? or only half of the goal or making the efforts but not succeeding ?
Visualization of achieving a goal can help better define: Why do you choose this goal specifically ? What benefits will you get versus the energy you invest to this particular goal rather than another ?
Read our previous article on ‘Why people don’t Do What you Tell Them To Do “
If you don’t know why you are doing what you do and nobody tells you how you contribute to the big picture, if nobody encourages you and say thank you from time to time or if you don’t have the resources for doing your job well, then external reward only will demotivate people. I think it is impossible to make someone passionate against his or her will, but it is very easy to kill the fire within passionate people.
What Keeps YOU Motivated ?